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Life Lessons – 77 Ways to Improve Your Life

 

Life Lessons

Picture yourself five years from now and how you envisage your ideal life.  Maybe you have made mistakes in the past that could have been avoided had you known what you now know.  Imagine what it would be like if you could avoid any more of those past costly mistakes.

You were born with a clean slate but life has programmed you. Parents, teachers, peers, colleagues and life’s experiences have all had a go at molding you.  Some lessons learned may be good but some not so good.

Wouldn’t it be great if you knew some really useful strategies to use in your daily life?

Lessons are often painfully learned and can be costly, so why not learn from other people’s experiences? Wouldn’t it be great to avoid their mistakes in your own life?

Imagine having the wisdom to choose wisely in every situation.

If you take the following lessons on board and understand their value, your life will run more smoothly. You will gain the happy and successful life you want and deserve.

Let’s get going…

 

  1. Be Kind to Others

It takes little effort to give someone a smile or an uplifting word.  We all need encouragement and help from time to time. This is the golden rule in nearly all religions: “Do unto others as you would have them do unto you.”

 

  1. Learn to be your own Best Friend

Be kind to yourself.  Give yourself what you need.  Don’t rely on others to fill your empty spaces; they have their own needs.  Forgive yourself, encourage yourself and, most of all, love yourself.

 

  1. Focus your Attention

What you give your attention to is what you draw into your life. Today, focus on the positive, live in the present and put past mistakes behind you.

 

  1. Nourish your Mind

Read good books, listen to teaching audios in your car and watch uplifting television. Focus on becoming an interesting person. Look constantly for things to learn and your life will be richly fulfilled.

 

  1. Respect Yourself

Only you can give yourself self-respect.  It doesn’t matter what anyone else thinks. Appreciate the wonderful person you are, grow in dignity and, above all, be comfortable with yourself.

 

  1. Respect other People

Everyone has a right to their own beliefs thoughts and feelings. It is a diverse world so don’t try to change others. Help them but allow them to live their own lives and give them the benefit of the doubt.

 

  1. Develop your Resilience

Dwelling on the wrongs you have suffered and having a victim mentality will drag you down. Focus on what you have learned in a painful situation and move on. Let the past go.

 

  1. Free yourself from Toxic People

When you are being harmed by another, either emotionally or physically, remove yourself from their life. Wish them well, put them in God’s hands, and let them go. They are no longer your concern.

 

  1. Focus on Solutions, not Problems

You will always have challenges to face.  When they come along remember that you can choose to focus on what can be done to make things better. If nothing, then it is a waste of time thinking about them. Move on.

 

  1. Talk less and Listen more

A lot of useful information can be missed by not listening.  People love a good listener and it is an excellent way to build good relationships.

 

  1. Keep your Promises

Be a person others can trust. Think carefully before making a promise. Can you do it?  Have you the time?  It is better to say no than let someone down.

 

  1. Listen to your Intuition

How often have you ignored that gut feeling and later see it proved right?  Practice checking in with your internal guidance system when meeting new people or new situations. Listen to what it tells you.

 

  1. Give yourself Joy

Go out of your way to do the things that give you pleasure. Take the time to organize and do the things you love and enjoy.  Life is too short to do otherwise.

 

  1. Respond Don’t React

Often we jump in with a habitual response when someone upsets us. We attack without considering the result. It is wiser to ignore a remark, or at least take time to consider your response.

 

  1. Choose your Attitude

The option is yours to choose how you should behave in any given situation. The highest attitude is one of love. What would Jesus or Buddha do? Ask yourself that question.

 

  1. Making the Right Choices

Does this choice fit in with your values? Will it make you happier in the long term? How will it affect others?  Ask yourself these questions. It will help to crystallize your thinking.

 

  1. Never Assume

We are all very good at filling in the blanks, often finding later that we were completely wrong. Never assume that you know someone’s motivation for what they have said or done. Clarify with them first so that you know the truth; don’t just assume you know.

 

  1. Choose your Fights

Most things are not worth fighting over. Fights cause more aggravation and trouble for all concerned. Choose to fight only when it is worth it, on issues that really matter, and when you know you have a high probability of winning.

 

  1. Live Life with a Sense of Gratitude

Being grateful for the many good things in your life brings more of the same to you.  Whatever your circumstances, there is much to be grateful for.  Focus on the good in your life; it will make you a much happier person.

 

  1. Choose to be Cheerful

Being cheerful most of the time not only makes you fun to be with, it also benefits you in your mood, health and well-being. Remember, people love being around a cheerful person. It is a great way to have lots of friends.

 

  1. Value your Time

This is the only part of life that can never be recovered. Once an hour, day, or year has passed it cannot be lived again. Choose the best use of your time, each and every day, or other people will choose for you.

 

  1. Trust yourself More

You know yourself better than anyone else knows you. Instinct tells you what is best for you. Trust yourself to make the best decisions for you, knowing you have the resilience to recover from any wrong decision you might make. Your life direction can be changed at any time.

 

  1. Everything Passes in Time

The Bible tells us that “…this too shall pass.” Nothing lasts for ever and present day worries will be hard to recall in a few months or years. Have faith that all will be well in time and know, without a doubt, that situations do improve and change.

 

  1. Every day is a New Day

Each day you can make the choice to begin your life again, from that moment. You can choose to be, behave, and act differently to what you have in the past.  Let old mistakes go and look with hope to a better future.

 

  1. Choose your Thoughts

Yours is the choice to see the best in every situation. You can choose to think positive, uplifting thoughts. Today, look for the better thought and then for another and another. Keep doing this until you feel good again. It will happen.

 

  1. Live in the Present

When you are thinking about the past or the future you are missing out on living your life fully. The present is the only moment that exists. The past is gone and the future isn’t here yet. Practice mindfulness throughout your day.

 

  1. Make your Day Count

Today could be the last day of your life; no-one knows how long they have on this earth. Therefore, make your day worthwhile, one worth living.  Have you told someone today that you love and appreciate them?

 

  1. Seek out Peace

Choose the way of peace whenever possible. Enjoy nature; take a walk by the sea or in the forest. Be peaceful with your family and friends and with yourself. Meditate on peace.

 

  1. Value your Freedom

Don’t allow anyone or anything to enslave and entrap you. Don’t let others control and manipulate you. Don’t get trapped in a relationship or job that you hate. Be free!  If you feel trapped today take the first step towards breaking free.

 

  1. Now and then, Step Back from Life

Take a holiday, relax, do something totally different from your normal everyday existence. You will gain a greater perspective and clearly see any beneficial changes you should make.

 

  1. Pay Attention to your Self-talk

Monitor the way that you talk to yourself. Are you putting yourself down, or building yourself up? Are you nurturing or are you critical of yourself? Learn to use your self-talk to grow positively. Talk to yourself kindly.

 

  1. Believe there is Always a Way

Never let your-self or anyone else convince you that there is no way out of a situation. There is always a way and you need to do the work to find it. If you are having difficulty, seek advice from professionals.

 

  1. It is Fruitless to Judge Others

It is a waste of time judging others because you don’t walk in their shoes. You don’t know the truth of their situation or how it came about so how can you judge? Moreover, why should they care what you believe anyway!  In the same way, others cannot judge you.

 

  1. Ignore the Judgement of Others

Firstly, it is none of their business what you do or don’t do. It is your conscience you have to live with, so don’t be burdened with other people’s opinions.  There will always be judgemental people, so let their unwanted opinions wash over you.

 

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  1. Avoid Domination or Control

If you try to control others they are actually controlling you. If you feel the need to dominate, those people are really controlling you to act in that way. Let go of your need to control and don’t be controlled.

 

  1. When one Door Closes another Opens

Never be despondent when your plans don’t work out. It could be for the best in the long run. Often, something more beneficial will happen instead. At the time it is impossible to know if that door might have led downwards so accept when things don’t happen the way you would like them to and move on.

 

  1. Let Go of Resentment

Being resentful doesn’t change the situation in any way it merely hurts the one feeling the resentment. Push away resentment and look for the silver lining in every situation and person.

 

  1. We Reap what we Sow

`What goes around comes around.’ It is the law of attraction that whatever we give out returns to us tenfold. Give out goodness and integrity and the same will be given to you. What are you sowing today?

 

  1. Lay no Blame on Others

When someone hurts you, it is useless to blame them for it. We always have the choice of our response. Choose to forgive and accept responsibility for the things we have attracted into our lives.

 

  1. Stop Struggling and let Life Unfold

The fact that we struggle against circumstance doesn’t change it. Struggle is dis-empowering so go with the flow and trust that all will turn out well. It usually does.  Accept what is and work from there.

 

  1. Feeling Sorry for Yourself Wastes Energy

There is always someone out there who would change places with you in an instant. There will always be people better or worse off than you. Don’t dwell on the negative, use your energy in a more productive way.

 

  1. Believe you have Everything you Need

When faced with any challenge you have within you the answer, the strength, and the talent to find a solution.  Sometimes you just need to search for solutions.

 

  1. Get out of your Comfort Zone

Think or your comfort zone like a prison, for that is what it is. Feel the fear and do it anyway! Try new experiences; push yourself that little bit further; make the most of every opportunity.

 

  1. Stop Complaining

People only complain about things they can actually do something about but haven’t. Complaining is pointless. Instead, smile and make the changes that are needed.  You’ll feel better for it.

 

  1. Change your Game Plan

We get in the habit of repeating the same endless cycles over and again in our lives. The only way life will be different is to change your game plan. If you keep doing what you have always done, you will keep getting what you have always got!

 

  1. Do what you Love

The only way to build a really successful life is to do what you enjoy. Follow your heart and abundance will follow. True success is enjoying your life by working or living in a way that is meaningful to you.

 

  1. Learn to say No

It is impossible to please everyone all the time.  There is a finite amount of time available for us all and you don’t want to waste it on other people’s agendas.  Learn to say `No’ and be much happier.

 

  1. Ask Questions

Learn to ask the right questions, both of yourself and others. Listen to the answers then ask more. This will help you make your best informed decisions.

 

  1. Think before you Speak

Think before jumping in on a conversation.  Reflect before you speak.  A word thoughtlessly spoken can never be taken back. Learn to put your brain into gear before you open your mouth!

 

  1. Don’t tell Lies

Being untruthful is the result of low self-respect. Fibbers are almost always caught out. Lying can ruin your reputation. Come clean – people respect honesty.

 

  1. Find ways to Praise

Giving compliments and approval to those around you makes everyone, including you, feel good. Particularly find lots of ways to praise children but remember adults need it too.

 

  1. Use the Power of Affirmations

Affirmations do work. They are simply self-talk and can serve to build you up and improve your life. Choose just one or two affirmations to work on at a time.

 

  1. Give and you will Receive

It is a basic law of the universe that when you give freely of your time or finances you release the power of abundance into your own life. You may not receive from the person you gave to but it will happen.

 

  1. Avoid “Never” thinking

If you are always thinking and saying “I will never get this, or do that,’ guess what. You never will. Nothing is set in concrete so there is always the possibility to get what you want. You just have to believe and stop `never’ thinking.

 

  1. Associate with Positive People

Some negative people will never change but continue to drag others down. Seek out people who are encouraging, uplifting and happy. Their attitude will rub off on you and make you a more positive person.

 

  1. Never give Up

Determination moves mountains. People often give up just when success is around the corner. Never give up on your realistic dreams. Step by step is the way to reach them. Remember the story of the hare and the tortoise.

 

  1. The Power of Visualization

Think each day about what your ideal life would look like. Take time to sit and use your imagination to dream about your best job, relationship or other situations you would like to change.  Imagine your goals being a reality, and they soon will be.

 

  1. Deal with Rejection

Rejection is simply a thought in your head. You can take it on board or not, as you please. If someone turns you down or your plans don’t work out, remember that you didn’t have it or them in the first place, so get over it and get on with it.  Better times are ahead.

 

  1. Take action every day

Just a little action each day can move you quickly towards achieving your goals. Like water that wears away a stone, so your actions can wear away obstacles in your path.   Make a plan and then work your plan.

 

  1. Each day Passes, Relentlessly

Resist putting off until tomorrow what you can do today. Are you thinking of starting a diet or exercise regime?   Time will pass.  Months and years will go by, and you will be in the same place, unless you start today!  There is power in beginning; a momentum will build as you start something new.

 

  1. Feel the Fear and do it Anyway

We dislike being uncomfortable, and have an aversion to putting ourselves into situations where we are not sure we will succeed. You will never know the extent of your power, unless you feel the fear and do it anyway.

 

  1. Have the Courage to Change

Life by its very nature consists of constant change.  Each day we have fresh problems and new accomplishments. It is impossible to keep the status quo, so why not have the courage to change and gain a better life.  Choose your transformations or life will choose them for you.

 

  1. Write down your Goals

It has been verified that the people who write down their goals are more likely to achieve them. Having vague desires is not goal-setting. Not only write them down but continually re-evaluate them, read them and where necessary, change them.

 

  1. Moderation in all Things

Excess often causes problems for us.  When you drink in moderation, eat with self-control and work reasonable hours you will improve your life dramatically.  In what part of your life are you overindulging?

 

  1. Learn to Prioritize

Remember the 80/20 rule. Twenty per cent of what you do produces eighty per cent of your results. Do the most important tasks first and you will find that the unimportant ones will sort themselves out over time.

 

  1. Appreciate your Friends

No man is an island and we all need friendship. When you are a good friend you will have good friends.  How can you make your friend happy today?

 

  1. Be Gentle with Yourself

When events go wrong, don’t beat up on yourself. If you could have done any better, you would have. As we learn more we make fewer mistakes. Making mistakes is part of life so forgive yourself and move on.

 

  1. Never be too Old to Play

The child within you is always present. Relax and enjoy that child. Take every opportunity to play. Fooling around playfully lifts your mood and life becomes more enjoyable.

 

  1. Look after your Health

Without good health your life will be more of a struggle. Give up bad practices such as smoking, overeating and drug-taking.  Eat healthily and take plenty of exercise.  Have regular health checks.

 

  1. Get Feedback

Sometimes you may not be aware of changes that need to be made in your life. Discussing issues with a good friend or a professional can shine a light on areas or actions that you can improve on.

 

  1. Taking on other peoples’ problems

Other people’s problems are not your problems. Help when and where you can but don’t allow someone else’s monkey on your back. It is not your job to fix everything for everyone; you will just wear yourself down.

 

  1. You are Strong

You don’t need someone else to take care of you.  You are capable of making your own decisions and choosing your own life path. Don’t make the mistake of relying on other people to solve your problems.  Know that you can and will get through any situation by your own strength, belief and common sense.

 

  1. You Can’t Control Everything.

Events will happen that you have no control over and that is okay. You won’t like some situations but that is okay too. Sometimes you have to learn to live with people and situations that you just can’t change, but change will occur over time as that is the nature of life.

 

  1. Be Flexible

Often there is more than one way to skin a cat.  Be open and flexible to fresh ideas and solutions; many paths can lead to the result you desire. Others may have the solution you seek so take time to listen without shooting their ideas down in flames. They could just have the answer you are looking for.

 

  1. A Higher Power

Whatever their belief, most people are aware of a higher power that can answer prayer and bring love and goodness into their lives. Take time today to ask for help and be thankful for all that is good in your life. Count your blessings, you may be surprised how many there are.

 

  1. Everything has its Price

Work out the price of following your dreams and resolve to pay that price. Nothing in life is free; taking one course of action means letting others things go.  Despite popular belief you cannot have it all.

 

  1. Love is everything

To live a life without loving and being loved is a life wasted. Today, tell all the people you truly love that you love them. Show love to strangers as each one has their struggles and dreams. Help when and wherever you can.

 

My hope is for you to take some of these lessons to heart and improve your life and leave the World a better place, dispensing more love around to raise the energy of the Earth.

 

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